Montréal

My French book, check. A notebook to jot down new phrases, check. The folder with printed lessons, check. I packed as if this was a trip for a conference. But no, Aisela and I were heading to Montréal to “immerse” ourselves in a French speaking world for three days.

Only after our talk with the hotel manager, did we learn that certain parts of Montréal are English speaking only, and other parts are predominately French. We stayed in Le Plateau-Mont-Royal where all the people we met are bilingual. We tried to practice French with everyone we had contact with: Uber drives, hotel staff, waiters, ticket agents, fruit sellers at the market, and custom officers. Their typical response to our slow and broken French was a tentative statement: “I also speak English” or the automatic switch to the less awkward language. “No, no, no,” we continued with our well-practiced line: “we are trying to practice our French. In fact, that is why we are here!” That usually put a smile on people’s face and then they kindly embraced this uncommon request. Our Uber driver from Gambia told us we were the first Americans (one Chinese and one Albanian) who spoke French to him in the past 10 years of giving rides and he cheered on our attempts. If nothing else, that encounter made us proud and happy.

We stopped by a berry stand at a farmer’s market and admired the fresh produce. In conversing with the owner, we explained that we are still learning French so please bear with us. She warmly pulled us to the side and said: “No reason to apologize! We, ourselves, are Mexicans and our home language is Spanish. It takes time to learn a language.” Canadians are so encouraging, sometimes to a degree that is entertaining. I asked a hotel staff whether I can buy tickets on the bus, in French. To dispel his confusion, I added “I am still learning French.” Delighted and relieved, in an animated voice, he said: “Oh!! That is great!! I could tell you were speaking French! I just don’t understand it.” I burst out laughing uncontrollably. At least, I sounded right.

The city itself is lively, even at night. We found ourselves out about late in the evening, either having a meal out in a pedestrian street while enjoying the summer breeze, browsing through fun gadgets and home décor in a little Japanese store downtown, or taking public transportation and then walking through a park back to the hotel. A sense of safety and community reminded us both of our home countries.

Our room was upgraded to a suite with a deck overlooking the street and a sizable park. Bikers and buses go by from dawn to midnight. Sitting on the balcony with a coffee and fresh pastries in the morning, and a fizzy drink at night, we chatted about everything, from the endearing stubbornness of our parents to the hopes for our children (Aisela has two wonderful teenage boys), from the importance of right proportions in styling to gardening techniques. Of course, we also reviewed our French lessons on the very same lunge chairs. As I quietly said goodbye to the balcony the morning we left, I realized this trip is as much about friendship as about French.

It was a win towards the end of our stay when we managed to go through a whole dining experience without switching back to English. For me, the trip was adventurous, yet relaxing. No screaming kids, no research agenda, no jackhammer breaking up the concrete in the basement, no stress about dinner plans. I tasted the joy of learning and enjoyed the inevitable comedy that comes along with it.

The Grand Gesture

In his book “Deep Work”, Cal Newport writes of The Grand Gesture:

“By leveraging a radical change to your normal environment, coupled perhaps with a significant investment of effort or money, all dedicated toward supporting a deep work task, you increase the perceived importance of the task. This boost in importance reduces your minds instinct to procrastinate and delivers an injection of motivation and energy.”

French club is taking such a grand gesture. We are going to Montreal to practice French. Genuine interest was shown by five out of the six members at my announcement. Budget, time conflicts, and a newborn baby shorten the list of goers to two. Me and Aisela. No surprise.

We are the most consistent with our practice and learning. Together, we just finished the book “The Berlitz Self-Teacher–French”. All 41 lessons. We started from simple vocabularies (such as table, red, and 34) and sentences to most commonly used tenses (perfect, imperfect, and future) and more complicated structures. Our French is still pretty rough and we are slow as tortoises, but I am proud of this milestone. We did not give up.

I used to practice by saying the house numbers in French on walks. My whole family protests. There are times when I lay down with David for his afternoon nap, I tried to name the objects I see in the room. With his eyes closed, David murmurs: “No French.” During those tech talks Chris gives once in a while, my mind wanders off and starts conjugating “aller”. He catches me: “can you pay attention?”

Learning a language is quite like doing research. Hours and hours of work seem to produce nothing. I forgot that word AGAIN. The results are useless because there is a bug in the code. I don’t understand a thing when a French major student tries to tell me his summer plan. The referee can’t look past a model specification and thus rejects the paper three times. In both activities, the input and output relationship is so not linear.

What I learned is this. Focus on the inputs. That is the only way I don’t get frustrated or lose patience. The reward is right around the corner.  It always catches me by surprise.

In preparation for the trip, Aisela and I are meeting every week now to practice and provide accountability. The grand gesture seems to increase our motivation and learning speed. Worst case scenario, we are not able to catch Canadian French and converse with the locals. We will still wine and dine fabulously.